#SOSS 10 Round Up Some Love

This edition of #SOSS brought to you by marzipan candy and a salad; never mind that’s lunch. Anyway, I hope that y’all find these post as entertaining or enlightening as I have. Happy reading!

We Are Shadows by the ever lovely Ella Scandal is a work that you need to read for yourself. The story is fantastic and, as always, well written with a fun twist that I never expected at the end.

Bare Essentials by Wicked Wednesday’s host, Marie Rebelle, made me squirm and laugh at the same time. I’m glad I got to read the story in its entirety and love how the events all went down. Nothing like a little fun between partners right?

The Yoga Sutra and D/s by Brigit of Brigit Writes stuck a chord within me as I’ve done just enough of both D/s and yoga to start to have a grasp on her words and how much sense they make to me. It inspires me to get back to my yoga that I’ve been neglecting and to work at being more present in my D/s life.

Your sex blogger voice matters by Isabelle Lauren really made me stop and think about how I feel about writing about topics  others have already covered. I feel like I’m not good enough to cover those topics as well and have something new enough or different enough that my voice will make a difference. Looks like I need to get out of my own head a bit and write what I want to write.

 

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SOSS #4 (Because Our Shit Should Be Shared)

Girl On The Net
A sweet post about how sharing an “I love you” can mean so much more and how sometimes it can mean so many different things. It resonated with me because, like Girl On The Net, I often cannot find the eloquence to explain what and how I feel, so I default to a simple, “I love you”

The Other Livvy
In an incredibly thoughtful and well written post about coerced sex, bad sex, the recent sex scandals and a story of her own, The Other Livvy brings to light a large part of of what is wrong with our culture regarding the way women are raised to be demure and not say no and how men are conditioned to chase and pressure those same women. The distortion of rape culture is a theme here and this makes for a fantastic read.

Molly’s Daily Kiss
I think what makes this is the realization at the end that the other person is bound and watching the heat and pleasure of another person’s orgasm before being released to (presumably) have their own. This one made me squirm in my chair a little.

Kayla Lords
A short, super hot read by the inimitable Kayla Lords. I love late night/early morning fucks myself so I absolutely relate. Now go read this post and a bunch more of her stories cause they are always hot!

Miss Jezebella
A well written thoughtful review about a new toy from Rocks Off Ltd. that instantly made me want to get my hot little hands on one. Also, I love the backdrop for the photos.

#SOSS (My last S stands for Sunday)

So as much as I read other people’s blogs I am terrible at things like leaving comments and interaction and right now having a lot on my plate health wise makes things a little harder. Spoonie for life, yo! Anyway, my third SOSS post is going up and here’s the goods:

sub-Bee from “A to sub-Bee” has a great post about anal sex and the potential for accidental oopsies to happen, including a rather mortifying tale of their own that, while it isn’t quite the same as what I fear, is close enough. And it is definitely something I relate to as I have a lot of fear around unwanted sounds or sights or anything like that during sex. Thanks for such a relatable read!

Morag’s Moist Musings is a blog that is new to me, but one that is incredibly well done and so sexy. Their post about threesomes just set me off in the most delicious way and I also don’t seem to understand math as I completely agree two can, indeed, go into one!

Hey, Mrs. Robinson picked a great topic for her Wicked Wednesday post (there is a trigger warning attached to so please read with caution) this week, one that made me feel so many things, see the highs and lows, and gave an excellent peek inside their head and into life as well. I’ve been there in some ways Mrs. Robinson so just know that you’re not alone and that someone is proud of you.

Alright y’all, sadly I’m running short on time to get some other things done so this will be it for my #SOSS this weekend. Hope you enjoy the posts as much as I did and know that I’m grateful to be part of such a great community!

Love,

Livvy

Wicked Wednesday 291 – (Promote) #SOSS on a Wednesday

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So I’m doing my Share our Shit Saturday post a little early this week. Inspired by the “Promote a Blog” theme for Wicked Wednesday I found several things from a few different blogs that I wanted to share. So here we go.

To start us off, here is an older post that I found on Sex Bloggess’ site and it really struck a chord with me because it is something that I too feel that I struggle with. My defining moment to find my sexual voice doesn’t feel like it has happened yet, but I’m pretty sure with some introspection inspired by this post, I may find that I am wrong. I love a good post that makes me think.

Next we have a story from the ever wonderful writer Lascivious Lucy. Christmas is rarely a happy time for me and this erotic tale reminded me that there are people out there who care for one another at Christmas, but was also a very hot, sexy read. The juxtaposition of the two brought me almost to tears (and that says a lot; I am not a crier) and made me smile at the same time.

While I am pretty bah humbug about Christmas, one of the things I truly enjoy are Christmas lights. Decorating a yard or wrapped in a tree they can always elicit a smile from me. In that vein I found not one, but two pictures I just have to share. One of them from Coffee and Kink is simply luscious and really made me want to do naughty things to a pretty girl wrapped in lights. The second photo, no less sexy, is from Tits and Test Tubes and to me seems very ethereal and a bit surreal as though one might be visited by a sexy Christmas vision draped in the night sky.

Taryn from Ace in the Hole wrote a piece earlier in December asking a seemingly simple question. Are asexual people queer? It details some history of the word queer and goes on to have a thought provoking discourse as to why people may or may not choose to use the word queer. It caught my eye because while queer is a label I use for myself I feel invisible because, like the author, I am a white cis woman in a hetero presenting relationship. That doesn’t change that I use queer to describe my sexuality, but it does give me pause and food for thought as to why some people would choose otherwise.

And lastly, I wanted to give a shout out to the upcoming Smut Marathon hosted by our own Marie Rebelle (Who also puts together Wicked Wednesday every week!) This competition will be a great way for authors to improve their writing and get their work out to different people who perhaps may not have otherwise seen it. It also looks like it could be quite a lot of fun. I hope all the participants have a blast with it and I’m hopeful to see it come around again next year when I might have the free time and extra energy to devote to doing as good of a job as I can.

Thus my #SOSS post for this week, albeit a bit early, and the final one for the year of 2017 comes to an end. I hope everyone takes a look at the bloggers I love to follow and loves them as much as I do!

Share Our Shit Saturday (Or Sunday in my case)

Hey folx! I’m here this weekend to share some of my favorite posts that I’ve seen recently because Sharing Our Shit is important. Now I realize that this post is actually supposed to be Share Our Shit Saturday, but I’m usually a day late and a dollar short. So I’m sharing shit on Sunday instead.

Reviews

My favorite review of the week goes to Scandarella with her take on the We-Vibe Clitoral Vibrator. This was a well written, honest review that shows just how popular companies like We-Vibe don’t always make the greatest products for everyone out there (unlike what people might want to believe). Based off of Scandarella’s review I’m pretty sure this toy would be a dud for me altogether. I love when I can read a good, unambiguous review and tell whether the toy would suit me or not without having to guess.

My favorite worst toy review (because of the toy itself, not the writing) goes to Red Hot Suz for her Sistalk Doctor Whale toy. While there are lots of great kegel exercisers on the market (I’m partial to the Aneros Evi), this simply isn’t one of them and Suz makes that demonstrably clear in her writing.

Stories/Pics

One amazing story of the week goes to Kayla Lords by far. I’m normally a very tense person so this really appealed as something I’d like my own lover to do to me. Plus it was hotter than hell just like all of the smut she writes. I love it!

Next up comes Cara Sutra with her erotic story, “In Santa’s Lap”; this one is a hot fantasy about what could happen if a naughty girl really did get to see Santa at the mall. It mixes a great daydream into something that the reader can see as happening until at the very end she is snapped out of it and has to leave. This one left me wet and wanting more.

Aurora Glory is a favorite blogger of mine for her excellent writing and always friendly nature. Her post this week for Wicked Wednesday was all about some steamy, hot sex in an unexpected place.

 Beautiful Bliss in Bondage is one of the hottest pictures I’ve seen in quite sometime. I love looking at the Sinful Sunday posts and while they’re all great photos this one really tripped my buttons and I love that Michael made sure to note that the photo was posted with Bliss’ consent, which is something that is very important to me.

And that’s a wrap y’all. I know it is a day late, but these are some of my favorite things from around the web this week. Hopefully I can make this at least a semi-regular posting and keep showcasing the great work of other bloggers around the web.

Love,

Livvy

Ethical Porn, Feminist Porn

I recently read an article that discussed just how feminist porn began shaping porn in the 80s and has continued to do so in this more modern era of smartphones and instant gratification, where porn is treated as a commodity to be seen and discarded, where mainstream pornography showcases things like violence, force, and a sheer lack of diversity in the total bodies of work that are being produced.

Now some feminists will tell you that all porn is bad or degrading, some will say its a good thing, and others have differing opinions altogether. As a woman who considers herself to be opened minded, if not quite meeting the definition of a feminist, I say that porn needs the diversity, many people want it and will go out of their way to search it out. The mainstream cut and dried tropes of so much pornography is no longer relevant to a large and growing number of people.

I’ve suggested before that making ethical porn is something that can be done and should be done. By working to legitimize the business itself and treat adult performers like anyone else with a day job, by making sure that people are safe on set, by showing things like consent, by continuing to improve and do better and not succumbing to the free sites with stolen content we can provide ethical porn to viewers who want to see it. I wish I could say that everyone wants to see well made, ethical porn, but I recognize that just isn’t the case.

But the problem is that ethical porn, feminist created or not, is not often found on the free tube sites which is where the majority of consumers turn to get their porn. Or if it is there it is just clips that have been stolen and reposted without credit to the actors or creators of the particular piece of art. Because, yes, good porn is an art form just like regular cinematography is. There is no difference between this amazing film by such and such Hollywood director and the amazing work of ethical, feminist leaning porn stars, directors, and producers throughout the industry. But people label it differently because pornography is still a taboo or forbidden subject. It has garnered more mainstream attention as the industry grows, but many people will still be ashamed to admit that they do indeed watch it. I’m not one of those people. I happily watch well made porn from time to time.

My point here is that ethical, feminist porn does exist, should exist, and will continue to exist and grow. Performers who choose their own scenes and feel comfortable doing them are going to have more fun in front of that camera and that will shine through. And the performers don’t all have to be cis, white, and skinny or fit. They don’t have to be conventionally attractive because there is beauty in everyone. Feminist porn has started to pave the way for more trans, queer, and gender non-conforming performers to have a place in the world of pornography and to advocate for a broader audience with more varied tastes. Ethical porn overlaps here in that it does the same thing in many cases.

My question to do you is what makes porn both ethical and/or feminist? When is mainstream porn going to become more about real sex with imperfections and giggles and stories to be told rather than just using women or men as objects of lust? When will people learn that they can learn from watching better porn than what the standard tube sites tend to offer? Sure, it costs more, but isn’t quality better than quantity in some cases? I think this is one of them and I think that more ethical and feminist porn needs to continue to be produced in order to create greater diversity within the market of pornography. We may never see a return to the adult theaters that existed prior to the rise of VHS, but we can see the rise of cinematography and plot and story in porn that is more than just a parody of something else. And I think that people need to see that. What are your thoughts on the ideas of ethical and feminist porn and how they affect the industry as a whole?