Category Archives: communication

Wicked Wednesday – 262 – Blinded (Gorgeous?)

“Hello, Gorgeous.” I looked at my partner, then glanced around wondering if they were talking to me. As we were alone together, it seemed pretty obvious that I was the person being addressed. I just shook my head a little … Continue reading

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The Behavior and Belief of Young Women and Their Sexual Pleasure

This article is based off of a Ted Talk given by Peggy Orenstein regarding how young women see themselves and their sexual experiences and pleasure. The link can be found here. Understanding consent is a vital part of growing up … Continue reading

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Sex with Women vs. Sex with Men (My Experiences)

I’ve had my share of sex with both men and women and it seems like there can be a huge difference between the two. Dating almost exclusively girls all the way through high school I was in awe of their … Continue reading

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Wicked Wednesday 245 – Second Thoughts (Uncertainty of a Woman)

Lexi frowned at her reflection in the mirror. For the third time, she stripped down and hunted for a different outfit. Her body was Rubenesque and delightfully shaped in all the right places but she had a hard time seeing … Continue reading

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Communicating Your Desires to Your Non-Kinky Partner

I’m a little kinky, my partner isn’t at all. And we knew this going into our relationship. At first I was afraid to talk to my partner because I’ve been shamed in the past for my sexual desires, kinky or … Continue reading

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Wicked Wednesday 244 – Highlights (Fisting)

I had wanted to try fisting for a very long time, even going so far as to try it on myself, bu my wrists don’t bend that way. Bringing it up to one of my partners was a non-option as … Continue reading

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Kink of the Week Jan. 16th-31st – Safewords

So when I first started exploring kink, safewords were one of the first things I learned about. I didn’t learn, though, that in the heat of a moment, you can forget your safeword and it resulted in a bad experience … Continue reading

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BDSM Aftercare

I recently read this article from kinkly.com and was encouraged to see the idea of self aftercare being promoted as another aspect of one sexual health and wellness. Now, I’m a big fan of sexual self-care and self-care in a general … Continue reading

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Can toys replace a partner?

My last partner seemed to have a nearly phobic fear that if I had a collection of sex toys (or even a couple of them) that they would be replaced by said toys. There were rules about them even, which … Continue reading

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Wicked Wednesday 230 – Slutfest (Musings on a word)

I think that for many women being called a slut can be incredibly damaging and derogatory. In fact, it has been for me before. I spent years dealing with what felt like shame and stigma over my desires because a … Continue reading

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