#SOSS 10 Round Up Some Love

This edition of #SOSS brought to you by marzipan candy and a salad; never mind that’s lunch. Anyway, I hope that y’all find these post as entertaining or enlightening as I have. Happy reading!

We Are Shadows by the ever lovely Ella Scandal is a work that you need to read for yourself. The story is fantastic and, as always, well written with a fun twist that I never expected at the end.

Bare Essentials by Wicked Wednesday’s host, Marie Rebelle, made me squirm and laugh at the same time. I’m glad I got to read the story in its entirety and love how the events all went down. Nothing like a little fun between partners right?

The Yoga Sutra and D/s by Brigit of Brigit Writes stuck a chord within me as I’ve done just enough of both D/s and yoga to start to have a grasp on her words and how much sense they make to me. It inspires me to get back to my yoga that I’ve been neglecting and to work at being more present in my D/s life.

Your sex blogger voice matters by Isabelle Lauren really made me stop and think about how I feel about writing about topics  others have already covered. I feel like I’m not good enough to cover those topics as well and have something new enough or different enough that my voice will make a difference. Looks like I need to get out of my own head a bit and write what I want to write.

 

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Review: Flexible Silicone Vibrating Dildo

When I received this dildo from www.tootimid.com my curiosity was piqued when I opened the package to reveal a somewhat wobbly g-spot toy. The vibrating dildo has a lot of give to it in the middle, which made me wonder if it would work for me because my g-spot is very picky about what it likes and that tends to be lots of pleasure…err pressure. So I charged it up via the included USB cable and away we went.

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The very first thing I noticed as the toy was charging is that the lights on the buttons are an incredibly obnoxious shade of blue, one that would draw the eye if it was left, say charging on dresser and someone walked into the room. There would be no mistaking it for exactly what it is. So if you like a little discretion make sure this one is definitely put away before any company comes over. The upside to the bright lights is that once the toy is turned one the buttons are easy to see in a dark room (which I’m sure was the intent.)

This vibrating dildo has a slightly bulbous head with some slight ridges along it. Inside of me the ridges were absolutely unnoticeable and therefore unremarkable. The shape of the head isn’t bad but it is pretty basic as far as g-spot toys go. However, while I probably could’ve orgasmed from thrusting the head against my g-spot I found that the toy had too much flex and give to it for me to adequately thrust as hard or even as fast as I might like.

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Beyond the fact that this toy and I simply aren’t compatible it is a nice looking toy. The silicone is smooth to the touch and while I can see mold lines where the toy was made I can’t feel them even running my hand over them. The ABS plastic handle is suitably shiny and reflective which is a nice touch, but with lube coated fingers can be a bit slippery. Another quality issue I noticed is that the motor in the end of toy sounds like it isn’t seated quite properly and while it doesn’t rattle around like it might break it is noticeable if you give the toy a good shake or flex. It probably isn’t a big deal and it didn’t seem to affect the toy’s performance, but I do like to be thorough.

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It offers four patterns and three speeds that fall somewhere between rumbly and buzzy and the only one that did for me was the strongest speed, but even then the flex of the toy meant that I couldn’t get it in just the right spot to have an orgasm. Granted I tend to HATE patterns in my vibrators so the fact that they didn’t do much for isn’t surprising. Overall I’m going to have to make the call and say this one was a dud for me.Despite my lackluster experience, if you’d like to give this toy a try and perhaps enjoy it far more than I did you can find it at wwww.tootimid.com for $54.95.

This Flexible Silicone Vibrating Dildo was sent to me by Too Timid in exchange for a fair, honest, and unbiased review. All opinions are my own.

Review Satisfyer Pro Plus Vibration

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The instant I turned the Pro Plus Vibration on I had a feeling that this toy and I were not going to get along in the slightest. It seemed like it would be far too busy for me to focus on either aspect of the pleasure the toy should bring in order to reach an orgasm. But, being the intrepid sex toy explorer that I am, I broke out the lube and gave it my best shot.

The pressure waves alone are no different than those of any other toy in this line up and I know from using previous Satisfyer toys that I can and do orgasm from them. But I was pretty leery of the vibration. Here I am, pantsless, and I turn just the pulsations on and it feels pretty good. OK, maybe I’m gonna be wrong about this; I have been before. I waited until I was close to orgasm before turning on the vibrations and everything just, well, stopped for me. The vibrations drowned out the pressure waves and rattled me half to death it seemed and that long awaited orgasm was gone, gone, gone. It was just too much stimulation all at once and my body noped right on out of the fun.

I was actually pretty sad about this because as much as I had my misgivings I was really hoping this toy would work out and produce some earth shattering orgasms for me. So I gave it a couple days and decided to try it again. Maybe I would be wrong and this would turn out to be a better experience than my first one was.

But it wasn’t. This time I started with just the vibrations, but they were so buzzy (and seemingly annoyingly loud) to me that I just couldn’t get anywhere near an orgasm even without the pulsations. After another chance at the pulsations to almost an orgasm and turning the vibes back on only for my body to just recoil from the sensation I knew there was no way that I was getting an orgasm out of this toy. Which is a real shame as I had some high hopes that this would be something amazing with the right combination of pulsing and vibrations.

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Buttons with charger magnets at the bottoms

However, there are some good things I can say about the Satisfyer Pro Plus Vibration. The ergonomics of the toy are fantastic and the buttons were placed perfectly. No fighting, no fiddling, and no fumbling around in the dark. It helps that the toy itself lights up pretty brightly so you can see somewhat as well. And another good thing is that the “annoyingly loud buzziness” isn’t nearly as loud as I thought it was. I couldn’t hear the toy from the next room. And for those of you who enjoy a little bath time fun, the Satisfyer Pro Plus Vibration is waterproof, but please make sure to use water based lubricant with it.

So for me this toy was an absolute dud. No go. But if you’re interested in a Satisfyer toy that brings a little something extra to the table besides just the pulsations then this just might be the one for you. You can find it at Peepshow Toys for $69.95 or you can check your favorite body safe sex toy retailer. Or, just for my readers you can checkout at the Satisfyer website with a special code “livvy25” to get a 25% discount. This offer is only valid in the U.S., Canada, and Europe. Offer ends April 2nd.

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The Satisfyer Pro Plus Vibration was sent to me by Satisfyer in exchange for a fair, honest, and unbiased review. All opinions are my own. There are affiliate links used in this post.

Can Maybe Sometimes Mean Yes?

(Just so we’re clear, I did not write this piece as some kind of weird defense against any of the recent current events involving sexual assault, harassment, and rape allegation that have been all over the media. I wrote this more from the point of view of being in a relationship and making negotiations about pleasure in those relationships.)

Alright everyone, hear me out here before you decide I’m crazy and don’t understand enthusiastic consent. I know that in a perfect world yes would mean yes and no would mean no, but what exactly does maybe mean? Is it a future yes or a future no? Is it supposed to be a polite, if unclear and vague, way of saying no? Does it come from a place of fear of saying yes or no?

Or does it come out of the idea that my partner might like something that I am ambivalent about? Could it be that I simply have a neutral attitude towards something and so I give the neutral answer? But how does that impact pleasure? If my partner never gets this thing that they want and enjoy, could that breed resentment or even anger? Sure it could. But if I’ve said maybe to whatever their sex act of choice is, that doesn’t mean I’ve committed one way or the other. It could mean I’m unsure because I don’t know what they want. It could mean that I am completely uninterested in it. Or the thing could just be kind of meh for me.

So, what if maybe, sometimes, under the right circumstances, meant yes? It means that a person in an actively consenting relationship could be willing to do a thing. It might mean that they do it simply to give their partner pleasure, but they are still willing to do it despite their own feelings towards it. And that is an OK thing to do. Hell, that’s a good thing to do if you ask me. I feel that it contributes to a healthier sex life over all.

However, I recognize that there are some things that some people simply won’t or can’t or don’t want to do. So in that case what does maybe mean? At that point it sees like a way to give your partner the hope that you might be willing to try something new when you’re not even open to it. In that case I would posit that maybe means no, but I would also suggest that you learn to communicate with your partner in such a way that saying no to them is OK. That avoids miscommunications and any vagueness regarding doing or not doing x, y, or z sexual activity. This ability also leads to a healthier sex life.

Now we get to the idea of maybe and consent. Does maybe imply consent? In a long term relationship where the people know one another well, it might or might not. That all depends on the nature of the relationship and how well the people in it can communicate their needs and wants. But if this is just a short term thing or a one time thing, I feel like the people involved have to be more clear than just saying maybe. Maybe can be ambiguous for many reasons and the root of those reasons should be known before assuming that maybe does, in fact, mean yes. So in the long run, I feel like maybe should automatically be treated as a no, except in certain circumstances, such as a long term relationship and even then it requires constant talking and dialog in order to make sure all parties are on the same page.

Have you ever told a partner maybe? How did they respond? Did you wind up doing whatever that maybe activity was anyway? Were you trying to politely say no? Or were you scared to say yes? All of those questions (and more I’m sure; feel free to share your own) are the reasons I ask if maybe can sometimes mean yes. What do you think about maybe instead of a definitive yes or no?

Review: Avant D3

Peepshow Toys kindly sent me the Avant D3 Dildo  made by Blush Novelties to review and holy hell was the reviewing part fun! But let’s start with the basics shall we? The Avant D3 is hand sculpted out of platinum grade silicone (Yay for body safety!) and is seven and a half inches long with six inches of that being insertable. It is one and one half inches in width. I wouldn’t call it a small toy, but by no means does it seem to be a giant and overwhelming dildo, at least not from my point of view.

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The brightly colored stripes are beautiful and caught my eye immediately. That alone made me want to hold it in my hands and see how pretty it was. By far, I’m going to say that this is the prettiest dildo that I own. It is also made of a nice, plush silicone and has a relatively firm texture, although there is a bit of squish to it. It reminds me of a firm stress ball. My first impressions of the toy beyond the gorgeous color and wonderful texture of the silicone led me to the ridged texture of the toy itself. I couldn’t wait to use it and see if they felt as good as they looked.

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The head of the toy is very pronounced and that is one of the things I love about it, however that head may look intimidating because of its size and shape. To me it looked like fun and I can feel the very generous pop and then pull slightly against my skin as I slide it in and back out of my body. It isn’t painful at all and I found the sensation to be very pleasurable. And those ridges? Yeah…they do good and happy things to my insides like glide across my g-spot in a perfect rhythm and leave me wanting more and more and more, which I eventually get in the form of an explosive orgasm or two. In my opinion the girthy head paired with the ridges along the top of the toy make it perfect for g-spotting which is exactly what it is designed for. The length of it is almost, but not quite, too much and for me that it absolutely perfect.

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When it first arrived and I was examining it at my desk I was curious and immediately stuck it to the top of the desk. And it stuck. Since then, it has been stuck to a window, a plastic box, the side of a bathtub, and a wall, and it has stuck where it was placed on all of them. So the suction cup definitely functions as intended, although I’m not a fan of using it. I simply don’t find it comfortable to use a dildo that is suction cupped to anything. But I know if I want to try it again, this will be my go to toy.

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I’ve spent most of this review gushing over this toy and have tried to find anything negative about the Avant D3 Dildo and in all honesty I cannot think of a legitimate complaint. It attracts cat hair like a lint roller, but it is silicone and all of my silicone dildos do the same thing. The closest thing that I have to a complaint is simply wishing that the texture was even more ridged, but that’s just because I love textured dildos, especially when the texture hits my g-spot, which, again, this toy does wonderfully. Also, don’t forget that if you’re using lubricant with it that you want to choose something that is water or oil based.

So there’s my take on the Avant D3 Dildo. I can’t get enough of it. The colors, the pronounced head, the texture and feel of it. Everything about it makes me happy. If you’re interested in picking up your own Avant D3 Dildo check out Peepshow Toys where you can purchase it for $43.00.

This toy was provided to me by Peepshow Toys for a fair, honest, and unbiased review. There are affiliate links used in this post.

#SOSS – 7 – Sexy Sunday Fun

May More of If Sex Matters provides the scene of an idyllic afternoon by the water that easily makes me wish that I could enjoy something of the same ilk. But I’m not brave enough to strip down, anywhere but safely within the walls of my home. So I’ll live vicariously through May.

Backwoods Bedroom provides a sassy and thorough review of the Doxy Number 3 and, personally, I loved the car comparisons. And the crack about having kids, cause while I don’t have kids, I do have nosy neighbors and sometimes that can be just as bad. This is a fantastic review and makes me wish I could afford my own Doxy. But a girl can dream. 🙂

Little Switch Bitch gets her review on with the We-Vibe Gala, a dual motor clitoral stimulator. She highlights how the app that We-Vibe uses to pair their toys over Bluetooth has really been upgraded into something usable and provides excellent pictures as well some excellent commentary on her thoughts on the Gala. An A+ review.

John Brownstone and Kayla Lords get a joint mention this week for their perspective coverage of the February Photofest. I love how they are going about this and giving the rest of us a peek inside their heads and photos to showcase things they love about each other. My favorite post from both of them this week was about boots and I have to agree that there is just something special about a good pair of boots.

Gypsy Traveler by the lovely Cara Thereon set me aflame with a desire to do my own time traveling, to see what I could find. Alas, if only it were possible. Very mesmerizing read.

 

 

Review: Satisfyer Pro G-Spot Rabbit

Initially I expected the Satisfyer G-Spot Rabbit to be just as underwhelming as Satisfyer’s seemingly very generic packaging is. I’ve never had a good experience with a rabbit vibrator to date so I figure this one wouldn’t be any different. And it does have some faults, don’t get me wrong, but the combination of sensations with this toy is simply amazing.

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The packaging seems very bland.

The plain white silicone is very plush feeling to me and it didn’t take much lube at all as it was very smooth to the touch. It is also kind of a novelty to have a white toy when the majority of them seem to be pink or purple or other seemingly feminine colors. It has an unsurprising pale pink accent around the clitoral arm of the toy and the power button is pink with two smaller white buttons above it, similar to the buttons on other Satisfyer toys.

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Finicky buttons

However, those buttons are a major sticking point for me on this particular toy. They are placed in such a way that I practically had to be sitting up to reach and use them (some of this may have been related to my bigger belly) and the controls themselves don’t seem to be very intuitive. One button (the single wave) turns on the vibrating part of the toy and controls the vibrations as well. The bottom button, with four waves, turns on the pressure wave stimulator (the rabbit part) and controls that as well. It was incredibly confusing for me as I expected that the buttons would both be for up and down functions as well and I was consulting the manual more than once, even double and triple checking as I wrote this review. Maybe in writing this seems simple to you, but when I couldn’t see the buttons and I was pressing blindly to find the right ones it got a little annoying. Note: after multiple uses the buttons did become easier to get the hang of so perhaps this was just a matter of a learning curve.

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So pretty and silky smooth

On the other hand, once I did some experimenting with placement and shifting the toy this way and that until I got it just so then found the right combination of vibrations and pulsations caused by the pressure waves I was on my way to orgasm land. I couldn’t thrust the toy but had to thrust my hips against it instead which worked out just fine and allowed me to keep contact with my clit while stimulating my g-spot with some surprisingly rumbly vibrations (nothing buzzy here y’all.) And boom! My orgasm hit me like a freight train and just kept going and going. It literally did not stop until I moved the toy away from my body because I was so sensitive. If I had kept going I know I’d have squirted all over the bed so I’m going to call that a definite win in my book. Hopefully this is the experience all my readers have, but I understand that rabbits of any kind are not one size fits all. This particular one, though, offers eleven different intensities for the pressure waves and ten different vibration programs so it has a wide range of possibilities.

As with previous Satisfyer toys this one is waterproof, should be used with water based lubricant, and is rechargeable via a magnetic connection to a USB port. It can take up to eight hours to fully charge for the first time, although mine only took about two hours before the light quit blinking indicating the full charge. All in all, this has been a remarkably surprising toy that I’ve thoroughly enjoyed using, despite the buttons, and can see myself using frequently in the future. If you’d like to purchase one they can be found at Peepshow Toys for $59.95 or you can check your favorite body safe sex toy retailer.

This toy was provided to me by Satisfyer in exchange for a fair, honest, honest, and unbiased review. There are affiliate links used in this post.